People who like to act like the A in lgbtqiap stands for “allies” when it really stands for asexual.
Actual allies are different than “allies”, in scare quotes, who like to insert themselves into spaces they don’t belong and speak over lgbtqiap folk, all the while reminding you that they’re “straight but not narrow!”
"Allies" = Macklemore
They’re also the people who like to distance themselves from the problem, thinking that because they’re allies™ they aren’t included in the group of privileged people. They’re usually some of the loudest people when MOGAI say things like “god i can’t stand straight people”, they’re always their first like ” you shouldn’t do broad generalizations like that, hate breeds hate, we’re on your side, don’t lump us in with the bigots like that.”
Allies™/”allies” hold respect for us and support for ransom; we be nice to them, we get respect and support. They will often tone police MOGAI people more than outright bigots do, too. “How do you expect anyone to respect you if you talk to/about your ALLIES like this” type of business.
There are allies, who quietly reblog posts and support and defend, and then there are allies™/”allies” who are just as annoying and oppressive as the bigots. Their insistence on stealing the “A”s in our acronyms is on the same level as bigots saying shit like “if they get a pride month, why don’t we get a straight pride month?!” 😕
I consider myself an ally. I volunteer with Planned Parenthood 40+ hours per month. I mentor two brilliant trans kids who are frantically navigating the Dallas public school district. I’ve helped raise and I’ve footed the untraditional education my queer niece needed to succeed in early adulthood. I classify myself as pan but currently married to a cishet male. My 14 yo is figuring out life and I’m ok with whatever. I am probably an ally - I just worry when the term I most identify with is considered ugh-worthy.